Be mindful of unintentionally reinforcing undesired behaviors from "summary" of Don't Shoot the Dog! by Karen Pryor
It's easy to fall into the trap of inadvertently reinforcing behaviors we don't want. Take, for example, the case of a child throwing a tantrum in a store. The parent, feeling embarrassed and flustered, gives in to the child's demands just to get them to stop. What the parent doesn't realize is that by doing so, they are actually reinforcing the behavior of throwing a tantrum. The child has learned that throwing a fit gets them what they want, so they're likely to do it again in the future. The key is to be mindful of the consequences of our actions. Every time we respond to a behavior, we are either reinforcing it or extinguishing it. This is true not just for children, but for all living creatures, including our pets. For instance, if a dog jumps up on you when you come home from work, and you respond by petting and praising them, you are reinforcing that behavior. The next time you come home, they're likely to do the same thing, expecting the same ...
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