Use Imessages to express feelings and needs from "summary" of How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk by Adele Faber,Elaine Mazlish
When we communicate with our children, it is important to express our feelings and needs clearly. One effective way to do this is by using "I-messages." Instead of blaming or accusing our children, we can take responsibility for our own feelings and needs. For example, instead of saying, "You never listen to me," we can say, "I feel frustrated when I don't feel heard."By using I-messages, we can avoid triggering defensiveness in our children. When we express our feelings and needs in a non-confrontational way, we open up the possibility for a constructive dialogue. Our children are more likely to listen and respond positively when they feel understood an...
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