Offer empathy instead of solutions from "summary" of How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk by Adele Faber,Elaine Mazlish
When children come to us with a problem, our natural instinct is to jump in and fix it. We want to offer solutions, advice, and quick fixes. We want to make everything better for them right away. However, sometimes what children really need is for us to simply listen and understand. They need us to acknowledge their feelings and show empathy. By offering empathy instead of solutions, we are validating their emotions and letting them know that it's okay to feel the way they do. We are creating a safe space for them to express themselves without fear of judgment or criticism. This approach helps to strengthen our relationship with our children and fosters trust and open communication. When we rush in with solutions, we may unintentionally dismiss their feelings or make them feel like their emotions are not valid. This can lead to frustration and resentment. By taking the time to listen and empathize, we are showing our children that we care about their feelings and that we are there to support them through their challenges. Empathy is a powerful tool that can help us connect with our children on a deeper level. It allows us to see things from their perspective and understand the world through their eyes. When we offer empathy, we are demonstrating our love and compassion for them in a meaningful way. So the next time your child comes to you with a problem, try to resist the urge to immediately jump in with solutions. Instead, take a moment to listen, validate their feelings, and offer empathy. You may be surprised at how much this simple act can strengthen your bond and improve your communication with your child.
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