Avoid criticism and blame from "summary" of How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk by Adele Faber,Elaine Mazlish
Criticism and blame can have a negative impact on a child's self-esteem and sense of worth. When children are constantly criticized or blamed for their actions, they may start to believe that they are not good enough or that they are always in the wrong. This can lead to feelings of shame, guilt, and inadequacy, which can in turn affect their behavior and relationships with others. Instead of criticizing or blaming children for their mistakes or misbehavior, it is important to approach the situation with understanding and empathy. By acknowledging their feelings and perspective, you can help them feel heard and validated, which can in turn help them be more open to feedback and guidance. When children make mistakes or misbeha...
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