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Refrain from Comparing Your Child to Others from "summary" of 13 Things Mentally Strong Parents Don't Do by Amy Morin
When you compare your child to others, you set them up for feelings of inadequacy and insecurity. Whether you're pointing out how well-behaved another child is or how much faster another child can run, comparisons are a recipe for disaster. Your child is an individual, with unique strengths and weaknesses. When you compare them to others, you overlook their individuality. Your child will start to believe that they're not good enough, no matter how hard they try. They may start to resent the child you're comparing them to, or they may become angry with you for making the comparison in the first place. Comparing your child to others also sends the message that you value achievements and accolades more than you value them as a person. When you constantly highlight how much better another child is doing, you're telling your child that they're only as good as their latest accomplishment. This can lead to feelings of worthlessness and low self-esteem. Your child may start to b...
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