Set boundaries from "summary" of Mind Over Mood, Second Edition by Dennis Greenberger,Christine A. Padesky
Setting boundaries is an important skill that can help you take control of your life and improve your relationships. Boundaries are like invisible lines that define where you end and others begin. When you set boundaries, you are essentially drawing a line in the sand and saying, "This is what I will accept and this is what I won't accept."Setting boundaries is important because it allows you to protect yourself and your well-being. When you have clear boundaries, you are less likely to be taken advantage of or mistreated by others. Boundaries also help you define your personal space and protect your emotional and physical boundaries. Setting boundaries can be challenging, especially if you are used to putting other people's needs before your own. However, by setting boundaries, you are not being selfish or unkind. In fact, setting boundaries is an act of self-care and self-respect. It is about recognizing your own worth and treating yourself with the same kindness and respect that you would offer to others. When setting boundaries, it is important to be clear and specific about what you will and will not tolerate. For example, you might set a boundary with a friend who is always late by saying, "I value punctuality, so I will only wait for 10 minutes before leaving." Setting clear boundaries helps avoid misunderstandings and ensures that your needs are met. It is also important to communicate your boundaries assertively and respectfully. This means expressing your needs and preferences in a clear and confident manner, without being aggressive or passive. By communicating assertively, you can establish healthy boundaries while maintaining positive relationships with others. Remember that setting boundaries is a skill that takes practice. It may feel uncomfortable or unfamiliar at first, but over time, it will become easier and more natural. By setting boundaries, you are taking control of your life and showing others how you expect to be treated. So, be kind to yourself and start setting boundaries that honor your needs and values.
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