Avoid power struggles from "summary" of How to Talk So Teens Will Listen and Listen So Teens Will Talk by Adele Faber,Elaine Mazlish
When we find ourselves in a power struggle with our teens, it can be tempting to dig in our heels and assert our authority. We might think that if we can just assert our dominance, our teens will fall in line and do as we say. However, this approach often backfires, leading to even more resistance and defiance from our teens. Instead of engaging in power struggles with our teens, it's important to take a step back and remember that our goal is to communicate effectively with them and maintain a positive relationship. When we get caught up in trying to assert our authority, we lose sight of this goal and end up damaging our relationship with our teens....
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