Abusers often isolate their partners from friends and family from "summary" of Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft
An abuser often works to cut his partner off from other people in her life. He may criticize her friends and family, telling her that they don't really care about her or that they are a bad influence on her. He might try to make her feel guilty for spending time with them, saying that she should be focusing all her attention on him instead. He may even create conflicts or drama whenever she tries to see them, making it harder and harder for her to maintain those relationships. This isolation serves several purposes for the abuser. First, it makes his partner more dependent on him for emotional support, since she no longer has other people to turn to. This can make it easier for him to control her and keep her trapped in the relationship. Second, it allows him to more easily manipulate her perception of reality. If he is the only one she hears from regularly, he has more power to shape her beliefs and opinions. Isolation also serves to weaken his partner's sense of self-worth. When she is cut off from the people who care about her, she may start to believe the negative things he says about her. This can make her more willing to accept his mistreatment and less likely to leave him. Finally, isolation can make it harder for his partner to leave the relationship if she does decide she wants to. Without a support network to turn to, she may feel like she has no one to help her through the process of leaving. In extreme cases, the abuser may go so far as to physically prevent his partner from seeing other people. He might monitor her phone calls, texts, and emails, or even restrict her access to transportation. This level of control can make it nearly impossible for his partner to maintain any outside relationships, leaving her completely isolated and at his mercy.
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