Judgment and advicegiving can damage communication from "summary" of The Lost Art of Listening, Third Edition by Michael P. Nichols,Martha B. Straus
When we are quick to judge or offer advice in a conversation, we often overlook the underlying feelings and needs of the person we are communicating with. Our judgmental attitude can create a barrier between us and the other person, preventing us from truly understanding their perspective. By prematurely jumping to conclusions or giving unsolicited advice, we risk alienating the other person and shutting down the lines of communication. When we listen with a critical mindset, our focus shifts from understanding the other person to evaluating and critiquing their words and actions. This judgmental stance can make the other person feel defensive or dismissed, leading to a breakdown in communication. Instead of creating a safe space for open dialogue, our tendency to judge can escalate conflict and hinder our ability to connect with others on a deeper level. Similarly, offering advice without being asked can be counterproductive in communication. While our in...
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