Let go of perfectionism from "summary" of The Gifts of Imperfection by Brené Brown
Perfectionism is not the same thing as striving to be your best. Perfectionism is not about healthy achievement and growth; it's a shield. Perfectionism is a twenty-ton shield that we lug around thinking it will protect us when, in fact, it's the thing that's really preventing us from taking flight. Perfectionism is not self-improvement. Perfectionism is, at its core, about trying to earn approval and acceptance. Most perfectionists were raised being praised for achievement and performance (grades, manners, rule-following, people-pleasing, appearance, sports). Somewhere along the way, they adopted this dangerous and debilitating belief system: "I am what I accomplish and how well I accomplish it. Please. Perform. Perfect." Healthy striving is self-focused: How can I improve? Perfectionism is other-focused: What will they think? Perfectionism is addictive because when we invariably do experience shame, judgment, and blame, we often believe it's because we weren't perfect ...
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