Stop seeking external validation from "summary" of Stop Doing That Sh*t by Gary John Bishop
Seeking external validation is a form of self-abandonment. It's like handing the keys to your happiness over to someone else and saying, "Here you go, you drive." You're basically saying, "I can't be happy unless you approve of me." But why do we do this? Why do we give others so much power over our well-being?The truth is, seeking validation from others is a coping mechanism. It's a way to protect ourselves from facing the hard truth that we're not living up to our own standards. It's easier to seek validation from others than to hold ourselves accountable for our own happiness. But here's the thing – seeking external validation is a losing game. You'll never be truly happy if your happiness is dependent on the opinions of others. When you stop seeking external validation, you take back control of your life. You stop allowing others to dictate how you should feel about yourself. You start living according to your own standards and values. You become the driver of your own happiness. It's a powerful shift that can transform your entire outlook on life. But breaking free from the need for external validation isn't easy. It requires a deep understanding of yourself and a willingness to confront your own insecurities. It means being honest with yourself about your own worth and learning to love yourself unconditionally. It's a journey of self-discovery and self-acceptance that can be challenging, but ultimately rewarding. So, the next time you find yourself seeking validation from others, take a step back and ask yourself why. What are you hoping to gain from their approval? And more importantly, what are you sacrificing by not validating yourself? Remember, true happiness comes from within – it's time to stop looking for it in all the wrong places.
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