Jealousy is a learned behavior from "summary" of Sex at Dawn by Christopher Ryan,Cacilda Jetha
The idea that jealousy is a learned behavior challenges conventional wisdom. We're told that jealousy is a natural, perhaps even innate, response to perceived threats to our relationships. But is it really? If we look at the research, we find that jealousy varies widely across cultures. In some societies, jealousy is virtually unknown, while in others, it's a major source of conflict and even violence. If jealousy were truly hardwired into our brains, wouldn't we see more consistency across different societies?It seems more likely that jealousy is a product of our social environment. In a culture that places a high value on monogamy and possessiveness, jealousy is more likely to rear its ugly head. We're taught from a young age that our romantic partners are our property, and that we have a right to control their behavior. This sets the stage for jealousy to take hold. But what if we were raised in a different culture, one that valued sexual freedom and non-possessiveness? In such a society, the need for jealousy would be greatly diminished. If we saw our partners as autonomous individuals with their own desires and agency, rather than as possessions to be guarded and controlled, jealousy would have little room to grow. In light of this, it becomes clear that jealousy is not an inevitable part of human nature. It is a learned behavior, shaped by the cultural norms and values that surround us. By recognizing this, we can begin to challenge and change the toxic beliefs that fuel jealousy. We can create a world where love is based on trust and mutual respect, rather than fear and possessiveness. It's a radical idea, but perhaps it's time for a radical change.
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