Avoid power struggles from "summary" of How to Talk So Teens Will Listen and Listen So Teens Will Talk by Adele Faber,Elaine Mazlish
When we find ourselves in a power struggle with our teens, it can be tempting to dig in our heels and assert our authority. We might think that if we can just assert our dominance, our teens will fall in line and do as we say. However, this approach often backfires, leading to even more resistance and defiance from our teens. Instead of engaging in power struggles with our teens, it's important to take a step back and remember that our goal is to communicate effectively with them and maintain a positive relationship. When we get caught up in trying to assert our authority, we lose sight of this goal and end up damaging our relationship with our teens. One way to avoid power struggles is to stay calm and composed when interacting with our teens. If we find ourselves getting angry or frustrated, it's important to take a deep breath and step back before responding. This can help us maintain our composure and prevent the situation from escalating into a full-blown power struggle. Another strategy is to listen to our teens and validate their feelings, even if we don't agree with them. By showing empathy and understanding, we can help de-escalate the situation and open up lines of communication. This can help us avoid getting caught up in power struggles and instead focus on finding solutions together.- Avoiding power struggles with our teens requires us to approach interactions with them with empathy, patience, and a willingness to listen. By keeping our focus on maintaining a positive relationship and effective communication, we can navigate conflicts with our teens in a way that respects their autonomy and helps them feel heard and understood.
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