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Ego states influence game playing behavior from "summary" of Games People Play by Eric Berne, MD
In the course of our daily lives, we are often unaware of the different ego states we inhabit, and how these states influence our interactions with others. These ego states are like different characters within us, each with its own set of thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. When we engage in games, these ego states come into play, shaping our game playing behavior in significant ways. For example, when we find ourselves playing the game of "Why Don't You - Yes But," we may notice that our Critical Parent ego state takes over, constantly criticizing and finding fault with the suggestions put forth by others. This ego state can prevent us from truly engaging in the game and finding a resolution, as we are too focused on proving ourselves right and others wrong. Similarly, in the game of "If It Weren't For You," our Adapted Child ego state may be in control, leading us to blame others for our problems and shirk responsibility for our own actions. This ego state can keep us stuck in a cycle of resentment and victimhood, preventing us from taking ownership of our choices and finding constructive solutions to our challenges. On the other hand, when we are in our Adult ego state, we are able to approach games with clarity, rationality, and objectivity. This ego state allows us to see beyond the surface level of interactions and understand the underlying dynamics at play. By accessing our Adult ego state, we can break free from the repetitive patterns of games and engage in more authentic and fulfilling relationships.- Our ego states play a crucial role in shaping our game playing behavior. By becoming more aware of these states and their influence on our interactions, we can begin to make conscious choices about how we engage with others and break free from the limiting patterns of games. Through this awareness and self-reflection, we can cultivate healthier relationships and create more meaningful connections with those around us.
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