Let go of the need for external validation from "summary" of Finding Your Own North Star by Martha Beck
Releasing the insatiable hunger for external validation is a difficult task for most of us. From our earliest days, we are conditioned to seek approval from others as a measure of our self-worth. Parents, teachers, friends, and society as a whole constantly judge and evaluate us, shaping our identities based on their assessments. As a result, we grow up believing that our value as individuals is contingent upon the opinions of others. This unrelenting need for external validation can become a prison from which we struggle to break free. We find ourselves trapped in a cycle of seeking approval, performing for others, and feeling empty and unsatisfied when we inevitably fall short. The pursuit of validation from external sources is a never-ending battle, as no amount of praise or recognition can fill the void within us. However, the truth is that external validation is an illusion - a fleeting high that quickly dissipates, leaving us craving more. True validation can only come from within, from a deep sense...
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