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Understand the different types of sexual desire from "summary" of Come As You Are: Revised and Updated by Emily Nagoski

To truly grasp the complexity of sexual desire, we must first acknowledge that it is not a one-size-fits-all phenomenon. In fact, there are different types of sexual desire that individuals may experience. One of these types is called spontaneous desire, which is characterized by a sudden and intense urge to engage in sexual activity. This type of desire is what we typically see portrayed in movies and popular culture - the idea that sexual desire can strike at any moment, without any specific trigger. On the other hand, responsive desire is a different type of sexual desire that many people experience. Unlike spontaneous desire, responsive desire is triggered by external cues or stimuli. This means that individuals with responsive desire may not feel a strong urge for sex until they are presented with a certain situation or stimulus that arouses them. For example, someone with responsive desire may only feel sexually aroused after engaging in physical touch or receiving compliments from their partner. It is important to note that neither spontaneous nor responsive desire is inherently better or more valid than the other. Each type of sexual desire is unique to the individual experiencing it, and both can be healthy and fulfilling. Understanding the different types of sexual desire can help individuals better navigate their own desires and communicate effectively with their partners.
  1. We can create a more inclusive and understanding environment for ourselves and others. Whether you identify with spontaneous desire, responsive desire, or a combination of both, it is essential to embrace your unique experience of sexual desire without judgment. Ultimately, by acknowledging and respecting the various ways in which sexual desire can manifest, we can cultivate a more positive and fulfilling sexual experience for ourselves and our partners.
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Come As You Are: Revised and Updated

Emily Nagoski

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