Let go of the need to always be in control from "summary" of Being Zen by Ezra Bayda
The idea of loosening our grip on control is a fundamental principle in Zen practice. It is the recognition that the more we try to control things, the more we suffer. This need for control stems from our fear of the unknown, our fear of not being able to predict or manage what will happen next. We cling to control as a way to feel safe and secure in an uncertain world. However, this clinging only serves to create more tension and anxiety in our lives. When we learn to let go of the need to always be in control, we open ourselves up to the possibility of experiencing life as it is, without constantly trying to manipulate or manage it. This doesn't mean that we become passive or indifferent to what happens around us. Rather, it means that we approach life with a sense of openness and flexibility, allowing things to unfold naturally without our interference. Letting go of control requires us to cultivate a deep sense of trust in ourselves and in the universe. It means acknowledging that we cannot control everything, and that trying to do so only leads to frustration and disappointment. It is about surrendering to the flow of life, trusting that we have the strength and resilience to handle whatever comes our way. By releasing our need for control, we free ourselves from the burden of constantly trying to manipulate our circumstances. We learn to accept things as they are, rather than constantly striving to make them conform to our expectations. This acceptance allows us to find peace and contentment in the present moment, rather than constantly chasing after some future ideal.- Letting go of the need to always be in control is about embracing the uncertainty of life and learning to live with grace and ease in the face of it. It is a profound act of surrender, one that requires courage and humility. But in doing so, we open ourselves up to a deeper sense of connection and joy, free from the constraints of our own need for control.
