Communicate assertively but respectfully from "summary" of Be Calm by Jill Weber
When we speak assertively but respectfully, we express our thoughts and feelings clearly and confidently, while still being mindful of the other person's feelings and opinions. This means we are able to stand up for ourselves and communicate our needs effectively, without being aggressive or disrespectful. Assertive communication is about finding a balance between being passive and aggressive, where we can assert our own rights and boundaries while also respecting those of others. In order to communicate assertively but respectfully, we must first be clear about what we want to say and why we want to say it. This requires self-awareness and self-reflection, so that we can communicate our thoughts and feelings in a calm and confident manner. It is important to use "I" statements to express our thoughts and feelings, rather than blaming or accusing the other person. By taking responsibility for our own thoughts and feelings, we can communicate in a way that is honest and respectful. When we communicate assertively but respectfully, we also pay attention to our tone of voice and body language. It is important to speak in a calm and composed manner, using a firm but gentle tone of voice. We should also maintain eye contact and open body language, to show that we are engaged and listening to the other person. By being aware of our nonverbal communication, we can ensure that our message is being received in the way we intend. In addition, it is important to actively listen to the other person and show empathy towards their thoughts and feelings. By acknowledging their perspective and showing understanding, we can create a positive and respectful dialogue. It is also helpful to ask open-ended questions and seek clarification, to ensure that we are fully understanding the other person's point of view.- Communicating assertively but respectfully requires a combination of self-awareness, clear communication, active listening, and empathy. By finding a balance between standing up for ourselves and respecting others, we can create meaningful and productive interactions that are based on mutual understanding and respect.
