Developed survival strategies to cope with abuse from "summary" of A Child Called It by Dave Pelzer
As the abuse from Mother intensified, I had to become more clever in order to survive. I learned to anticipate her moods and adjust my behavior accordingly. When she was in a good mood, I would try to stay out of her way as much as possible. If she was in a bad mood, I would try to be invisible, hiding in my room or finding some other way to escape her wrath. I also developed a keen sense of when the abuse was going to happen and would try to avoid it if possible. Sometimes I would try to distract her with jokes or stories, anything to take her mind off of hurting me. Other times, I would try to physically defend myself, although that often resulted in even more severe punishment. One of the most important survival strategies I developed was the ability to emotionally detach myself from the abuse. I would try to imagine myself somewhere else, in a place where I was safe and loved. This mental escape helped me endure the physical pain and emotional trauma that I was experiencing. Despite the constant abuse, I never stopped fighting for my own survival. I refused to let Mother break my spirit, no matter how hard she tried. I clung to the hope that one day things would get better, that I would find a way out of my living nightmare. In the darkest moments, when I felt like giving up, I would remind myself that I was stronger than Mother, that I had the power to survive whatever she threw at me. This inner strength, combined with my developing survival strategies, helped me endure years of unspeakable cruelty and abuse.
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