Navigating consent boundaries from "summary" of Watching Porn by Lynsey G
Navigating consent boundaries is a delicate matter and something that needs to be taken seriously. It is important to understand the boundaries between two people and respect them without crossing them.- Know that consent is not a single “yes”, but an ongoing dialogue between two people or more before and during even the slightest physical interaction.
- Be conscious of the power dynamic in any situation. Determine whether anyone has an unequal level of control or influence over the smaller things within it - in which case consent should not be assumed.
- Discuss what both parties are comfortable doing together before taking any action. This includes talking about boundaries, desires, consent, etc.
- If you are unsure of the level of comfort or willingness of another person, make sure to double check by asking them directly.
- Understand that feelings such as embarrassment, fear or guilt can mask enthusiasm. Respect the other person's boundaries and feelings.
- Be aware that individuals may find it difficult to express their opinions, feelings and interests due to societal pressures. Speak up if something doesn't feel consensual.
- Don't pressure or expect people to do things they may not want to do just because you would like it. Check with them and ask how they feel about it first.
- Be aware of heavy handedness; if you need to use your strength in any way during contact with someone else, be extra aware of their willingness for it.
