Address perfectionism from "summary" of Unfuck Your Brain by Faith G. Harper, PhD, LPC-S, ACS, ACN
Perfectionism is a sneaky little bastard. It whispers in your ear that you're not good enough, that you have to try harder, do better, be perfect. It prances around in your brain, convincing you that if you can just get everything right, then you'll finally be worthy of love and acceptance. But it's all a lie. Perfectionism is a trap, a never-ending loop of self-criticism and self-doubt. It keeps you stuck in a cycle of striving for an impossible standard, always falling short, always feeling like a failure. But here's the thing: perfectionism is a lie. It's a myth, a fairy tale we tell ourselves to keep us small and afraid.
To address perfectionism, you have to shine a light on it, expose it for the fraud that it is. You have to challenge those toxic thoughts and beliefs, question where they come from and whether they serve you. You have to reframe your mindset, shift your perspective, and embrace imperfection.
Addressing perfectionism is about letting go of the need to be flawless, of the pressure to measure up to some unattainable standard. It's about accepting yourself as you are, flaws and all, and recognizing that you are worthy of love and acceptance simply because you exist.
So how do you do it? How do you address perfectionism and break free from its suffocating grip? You start by being kind to yourself, by practicing self-compassion and self-care. You challenge those negative thoughts and beliefs, replacing them with more realistic and affirming ones. You set boundaries, prioritize your well-being, and let go of the need to please everyone else.
Addressing perfectionism is a process, a journey of self-discovery and self-acceptance. It's not easy, but it's worth it. Because when you let go of perfectionism, you open yourself up to a world of possibility, of growth and change. You become more resilient, more confident, more authentic. You become the best version of yourself, flaws and all.
