Stop seeking validation from others from "summary" of Unf*ck Yourself by Gary John Bishop
Seeking validation from others is a common behavior that many of us engage in without even realizing it. We look to others to confirm our worth, to affirm our choices, and to validate our existence. We seek approval, praise, and recognition as if our value depends on the opinions of those around us. But the truth is, seeking validation from others is a futile pursuit that will only leave us feeling empty and unfulfilled.
When we seek validation from others, we give away our power. We allow someone else to dictate how we feel about ourselves, to determine our self-worth. We become dependent on the opinions of others, constantly seeking approval and validation to feel good about ourselves. But this external validation is fleeting and unreliable. It is based on someone else's perception of us, which may change from one moment to the next. It is a shaky foundation upon which to build our sense of self.
The only validation we truly need is our own. We must learn to validate ourselves, to affirm our own worth, and to trust in our own judgment. We must recognize that our value does not come from others, but from within ourselves. We must let go of the need for external validation and instead focus on cultivating self-acceptance and self-love.
When we stop seeking validation from others, we free ourselves from the chains of approval-seeking behavior. We liberate ourselves from the need to please others, to conform to their expectations, to seek their validation. We reclaim our power and take control of our own happiness and self-worth. We become self-reliant, self-assured, and self-validated.
So, stop seeking validation from others. Look within yourself for the validation you seek. Trust in your own worth, affirm your own value, and let go of the need for external validation. You are enough, just as you are. Validate yourself, and watch as your confidence and self-worth soar.
