Love is not about power struggles or manipulation from "summary" of The Mastery of Love by Don Miguel Ruiz,Janet Mills
In relationships, there is often a tendency to see love as a power struggle, a game of manipulation where one person tries to control the other. This mindset stems from a place of fear, insecurity, and a lack of self-love. When we operate from this place, we are not truly experiencing love. Love is not about dominating or being dominated, it is about mutual respect, trust, and understanding. True love is about freedom and respect. It is about allowing the other person to be who they truly are, without trying to change them or control them. When we love someone, we should want the best for them, even if it means that they may choose a path that is different from what we would have chosen for them. Love is not about imposing our will on others, it is about supporting them and encouraging them to be the best version of themselves. When we engage in power struggles and manipulation in relationships, we are not acting out of love, but out of fear. We are afraid of losing the other person, of being abandoned or rejected. This fear drives us to try to control the other person, to make them stay with us at all costs. However, this type of love is not sustainable, as it is based on fear rather than on genuine care and respect. To truly experience love, we must let go of the need to control others and instead focus on creating a loving and supportive environment where both people can thrive. Love is about creating a partnership based on trust, communication, and mutual respect. It is about celebrating each other's differences and supporting each other's growth. When we understand that love is not about power struggles or manipulation, we can begin to cultivate healthy and fulfilling relationships. We can let go of our fears and insecurities and open ourselves up to the beauty and joy that comes from loving and being loved unconditionally. Love is a transformative force that has the power to heal and uplift us, but only when we approach it with an open heart and a willingness to let go of control.
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