Love is not about changing someone else from "summary" of The Mastery of Love by Don Miguel Ruiz,Janet Mills
Love is not about changing someone else. It is not about trying to mold them into the person you want them to be. Love is accepting someone exactly as they are, without judgment or expectations. When you truly love someone, you embrace their flaws and imperfections, understanding that they are an integral part of who they are.
Attempting to change someone in the name of love is a destructive act that stems from a place of insecurity and control. It is a misguided belief that by changing someone, you can make them better or more lovable. In reality, this only leads to resentment, resistance, and ultimately, a breakdown in the relationship.
When you love someone unconditionally, you recognize that they are on their own journey of growth and self-discovery. You offer them support, encouragement, and understanding, but you do not try to force them to change to fit your idea of who they should be. Instead, you celebrate their uniqueness and individuality, appreciating them for the person they are.
True love is about empowering someone to be their authentic self, free from the constraints of societal expectations or personal insecurities. It is about encouraging them to grow and evolve in their own way and at their own pace. Love is a nurturing force that allows someone to flourish and thrive, not a force that seeks to control or manipulate them.
In the end, love is about acceptance, respect, and honoring the other person's autonomy. It is about creating a space where they feel safe, valued, and loved for who they are, not who you want them to be. When you embrace this truth, you will experience a deeper, more fulfilling connection with the people you care about.
