Prioritize teaching skills over punishment from "summary" of The Explosive Child by Ross W. Greene, PhD
The philosophy being advocated here can be summed up in a single sentence: kids do well if they can. This is not to suggest that children are being let off the hook for misbehavior, but rather that their misbehavior reflects a lack of crucial cognitive skills. If a child is lacking the skills to behave adaptively, then the solution should be to teach those skills rather than punish the child for not having them. This requires a shift in thinking, a move away from the traditional approach of discipline and consequences towards a more collaborative, problem-solving model. The focus should be on identifying the specific cognitive skills that a...
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