Assertiveness is key from "summary" of The Art of Saying No by Damon Zahariades
Assertiveness is an important skill to have in order to live life to the fullest. It is a quality that allows us to make decisions confidently, express our opinions, and stand up for ourselves without feeling guilty. Learning to say no in difficult situations can be a powerful tool.- Assertiveness is a key trait for success in life - it's the ability to express your own needs and opinions while respecting those of others.
- By being assertive, you can protect yourself from manipulation and selfishness by maintaining your dignity and personal rights without pushing away the respect of others.
- Practice self-control - don't be tempted to respond to certain situations aggressively or sarcastically as it could lead to further disputes.
- Respect other's feelings but don't let them overstep their boundaries and take advantage of yours - communicate your thoughts with confidence and politeness to ensure mutual cooperation and understanding.
- Don't be afraid to speak up and to stand by your ideas even if they are often unpopular because ultimately, you will prevent unnecessary power struggles and have the courage to ask for help if needed.
- If someone is trying to persuade or talk you into doing something that goes against your beliefs, stay firm and politely make your point clear without becoming hostile.
- It's important to be aware of how you're feeling and think about what you truly want or need, then present your points in a way that won't put people off and show that you deserve that respect.
- Reflect on occasions that have gone well and not so well before and after interactions with people to understand how best to manage conflict and how to build better relationships.
