Use natural consequences to teach lessons from "summary" of Positive Discipline A-Z by Jane Nelsen, Ed.D.,Lynn Lott,H. Stephen Glenn
When children make choices, they also choose the consequences that follow. These consequences can be logical or natural. Logical consequences are imposed by someone else and can feel like punishment. Natural consequences, on the other hand, are the direct result of a child's behavior. For example, if a child refuses to wear a jacket outside, the natural consequence may be feeling cold. This consequence allows the child to learn from their decision without feeling like they are being punished. Natural consequences can be powerful teachers because they provide immediate feedback and allow children to connect their actions with the outcomes. As parents or caregivers, it can be tempting to shield children from the natural consequences of their choices. However, by allowing children to experience these consequences, we are giving them the opportunity to learn important life lessons. Instead of swooping in to rescue them, we can offer empathy and support as they navigate the results of their decisions. It is essential to remember that natural consequences should be safe and respectful. For example, if a child refuses to eat dinner, the natural consequence should not be going hungry. Instead, the child can choose to eat something else later if they are hungry. By setting boundaries and offering choices within those boundaries, we can help children learn from their actions in a healthy and constructive way.- Using natural consequences to teach lessons allows children to learn from their own choices and experiences. By providing a safe and respectful environment for these consequences to occur, we can help children develop important life skills such as responsibility and problem-solving. Ultimately, natural consequences can be powerful tools for guiding children towards becoming independent and capable individuals.
