Discipline is about teaching, not punishing from "summary" of Positive Discipline A-Z by Jane Nelsen, Ed.D.,Lynn Lott,H. Stephen Glenn
Discipline is not about making children suffer for their mistakes. Instead, it is about guiding them towards better behavior through teaching and learning. Punishment may stop misbehavior temporarily, but it does not address the root causes of the behavior or provide long-term solutions. When parents focus on punishment, they miss the opportunity to teach their children valuable life skills and lessons. Teaching involves setting clear and consistent expectations for children while also providing them with the tools and strategies they need to meet those expectations. It requires patience, empathy, and understanding. By teaching children how to manage their emotions, communicate effectively, and problem-solve, parents can help them develop important skills that will serve them well throughout their lives. Punishment, on the other hand, often leads to power struggles, resentment, and a breakdown in the parent-child relationship. When children are punished without being given the opportunity to learn from their mistakes, they may become defiant or withdrawn. Punishment can also erode trust and create feelings of shame and inadequacy in children. By approaching discipline as an opportunity for teaching and learning, parents can build a strong and positive relationship with their children. They can work together to identify the underlying issues behind misbehavior and come up with constructive solutions. This collaborative approach helps children feel respected, valued, and understood, which in turn fosters a sense of cooperation and mutual respect in the family.- Discipline is not about controlling children or asserting authority over them. It is about empowering them to make positive choices and learn from their experiences. When parents focus on teaching rather than punishing, they create a supportive and nurturing environment in which children can thrive and grow.
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