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Suppressing emotions can have negative consequences from "summary" of How Not To Be a Boy by Robert Webb

In a world where boys are taught to be tough and not show their feelings, suppressing emotions becomes second nature. This expectation of stoicism can have detrimental effects on mental health and relationships later in life. Bottling up emotions may seem like the easiest option in the moment, but it often leads to a build-up of unresolved issues that can manifest in harmful ways. When boys are told to "man up" and not cry, they learn to internalize their pain instead of seeking help or support. This can result in a sense of isolation and loneliness, as well as a lack of emotional intelligence. Without the ability to express their feelings in a healthy way, boys may turn to destructive behaviors such as substance abuse or aggression as outlets for their pent-up emotions. Suppressing emotions can also impact relationships, as it can be difficult to form deep connections with others when one is not being authentic about how they truly feel. Communication breakdowns and misunderstandings can arise when emotions are not expressed openly and honestly. This can lead to conflict and resentment, further exacerbating the cycle of emotional suppression. It is important for boys (and men) to recognize the importance of acknowledging and processing their emotions. Seeking therapy or talking to a trusted friend or family member can help in unpacking these suppressed feelings and learning how to cope with them in a healthy way. By allowing themselves to be vulnerable and accepting their emotions, boys can break free from the constraints of toxic masculinity and lead more fulfilling lives.

How Not To Be a Boy

Robert Webb

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