Use the counting method sparingly from "summary" of 1-2-3 Magic for Christian Parents by Thomas W. Phelan
The counting method is a valuable tool in disciplining children, but it should be used in moderation. Overusing the counting method can lead to a decrease in its effectiveness and can also create a power struggle between parents and children. When parents rely too heavily on counting, children may become desensitized to the consequences of their behavior and may start to view the counting method as an empty threat. It is important for parents to remember that the counting method is just one of many discipline strategies that can be used. By incorporating a variety of discipline techniques, parents can maintain a sense of balance and avoid becoming overly reliant on any one method. This will help prevent children from becoming immune to the consequences of their actions and will also allow parents to respond to different situations in a more flexible and effective manner. When parents do choose to use the counting method, they should do so in a calm and consistent manner. Counting should be reserved for situations where a child is engaging in a behavior that is clearly unacceptable and where immediate action is needed. By using counting sparingly and only in situations where it is truly necessary, parents can help ensure that their children understand the seriousness of their actions and are more likely to respond appropriately. In addition to using the counting method sparingly, parents should also make sure to follow through with the consequences that are associated with the counting method. If a child reaches the count of three, parents need to be prepared to enforce the consequence that has been established. Consistency is key when it comes to discipline, and failing to follow through with consequences can undermine the effectiveness of the counting method.- The counting method can be a helpful tool for parents, but it should be used judiciously. By incorporating a variety of discipline strategies, using counting sparingly, and consistently following through with consequences, parents can effectively manage their children's behavior and create a positive and respectful family dynamic.
